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Overthinking things- A self-destructive habit

  • Overthinking happens when you can’t stop wondering why something happened. You keep thinking about it, trying to make sense of it, even if it’s out of your control. This can disturb your peace of mind and affect your body too.

Overthinking also means getting lost in vague fears about a situation in your life, which actually has not yet happened. Your mind starts running wild and creates disastrous scenarios about what could happen if you did something or did not do something.

Negative thoughts start buzzing around in your mind like an alarm bell. This happens when the mind is vulnerable and you cannot think clearly. And this is when you start developing the self-destructive habit of overthinking things.

To shoo these negative thoughts off, you need to catch them quickly.

Stop, Drop, and Breathe. When you catch yourself overthinking, stop the thought, drop the worry, and take a few deep breaths.

You need to train your mind to revisit a situation with some level-headed thinking. I call it RETHINKING WITH DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES. Once you start saying, stop! to your negative thoughts, you will realize that most of the time the issue is very small, rather nothing at all. But your mind thinks of it and makes a mountain out of the molehill.

Another way that works is to set a Worry Time. Allocate a specific time slot for worrying. This may sound funny, but it works, as you tend to realize that the thing you are overthinking about is not worth setting a time for.

The best trick to avoid overthinking is to ask yourself, What is the worst that could happen? Really, what could happen?

Trust me, your mind will give you the answers, and you will figure out that you can think of solutions to that so-called ‘unlikely situation’, if at all it happens. In reality, what happens is usually not as bad as what your negative thinking makes you think of.

If you make a habit of using these tricks, it will save you from a lot of misery and suffering.

Remember, it takes practice to break the habit of overthinking. Be patient and consistent in using these tricks to help you shift your mindset. Every small step you take towards mindful thinking is a victory in itself. So, start today—take a deep breath, shift your perspective, and reclaim your peace of mind. Your thoughts are powerful, but your ability to change them is even stronger.

“Thank you for reading! I hope you found these tips helpful. If you have any experiences or additional insights to share, I’d love to hear them in the comments section.

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Until next time, God Bless

Pria D’souza



A reminder for self care-

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In today’s life-run (actually run for life…) we have developed a habit of setting reminders for everything right from waking up to sleeping. But do we set reminders for SELF LOVE AND CARE? I bet you don’t. I think the best reminder for life is to remind yourself to love yourself. Don’t give excuses of “I have to take care of my family and office so I do not have time for myself.”

You have to take care of yourself and help yourself first to be able to fully share your own talents and the value you can give to your world. Remember- “You cannot pour from an empty cup”

If you do it the other way around and always put yourself last then you may burn yourself out, which will lead to resentfulness.

This is disastrous as this is where your self-esteem slowly drops week after week and you feel less and less motivated to help yourself or others.

Now how to set a reminder for this?

Simple is: The reminder is not an alarm watch or your cell phone. The alarm is in your mind. You have to tell yourself and talk to yourself. I personally believe that Self Talk is the Best Talk.

A few tips on how to take care of yourself.

1) Make sure to eat healthy and get enough sleep.

2) Say no to people if you think you will be swamped in. Draw a line ( I know it is difficult, but you will have to build this habit. You cannot say YES to everyone and everything)

3) When you feel worried or negative then let it out and talk it over with a loved one instead of trying to keep it all on the inside. (Just venting or talking it over with a level-headed person can make a big difference for one’s well-being.)

4) Drop toxic people out of your life.( People who cause pain to you in anyways, should be just throw out of your life. Even if you cannot just through them out of your life immediately, restrict their entry in your thoughts. Block them)

5) Remove negative comparisons.( Do not indulge in comparing yourself with anyone. No one can be you and you cannot be anyone else. Comparison always leads to distress.)

6) Thank yourself.( You are a Unique being created in the image of God. Show the attitude of Gratitude towards yourself)

7) Build positive affirmations for self. Example:- By taking care of myself ,I am strengthened and more balanced. I am at peace!!

“It is not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”